Dandy Cast 025: Being okay is pretty dang okay
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Dandy Cast 025: Being okay is pretty dang okay

This podcast episode was recorded as an accompanying audio version of the Dandy Newsletter that was published on May 19, 2020.

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I’ve wanted to be a lot of things in my life: a teacher, an actor, a cinematographer, and heck, even a sign language interpreter. I didn’t want to be president or anything like that because who would want that insane job. Suffice it to say, though, I wanted to do creative work and I wanted to be well known for it.

That’s been a hell of a thing to get over, let me tell you. Why in the world do we convince our most impressionable people that you’re only worth something if you’re famous? Why aren’t we spending more time and effort telling people that they’re going to be amazing even if they’re not famous? Heck, especially if they’re not famous! Being “just okay” is underrated.

There’s also a brand spankin’ new blog post waiting for you. It’s called, Easily Move Your Blog To/From Squarespace.

Moving your blog to Squarespace is a piece of cake. Moving your blog away from Squarespace is also a piece of cake. If you’re considering a move of this sort, you’ve got an easy process in store for you. Can I promise you actual cake? No, but I can promise that your blog is going to have a wonderful new home. Read this post to find out how to move your blog today.

We’re wrapping things up with what I’m watching, reading, and listening to this week. It’s a great assortment of media that’s worth your time.

Links to stuff that was mentioned:

Arsenic and Old Lace - Wikipedia

Easily Move Your Blog To/From Squarespace - Dandy Cat Design

Copy Copy Copy, Paste Paste Paste Paste | Upgrade - Relay FM

The Kominsky Method - Netflix

Set My Heart on Fire Immediately | Perfume Genius - YouTube

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The Dandy Newsletter — 05/19/20

When I was a child, I wanted to be a teacher. I guess I’d had some pretty influential teacher presences in my life because I wanted to emulate them.

When I was in high school, I wanted to be an actor. I was in the drama club and performed in several plays, even netting some significant roles (like Mortimer Brewster in Arsenic and Old Lace) in those plays.

After high school, I bounced around many different interests. Those included photography, sign language interpreting, and voiceover artistry.

In film school, I discovered an intense (and still thriving) interest in cinematography. I wanted to be a director of photography in film and television like people want to have food to eat and water to drink.

These days, I want to learn how to be my most productive self and help others achieve the same for themselves. There’s also the matter of really enjoying podcasting, but that’s definitely a much-loved hobby at this point.

I’ve had a lot of serious interests throughout my life, each one of them meaningful and challenging. I’ve dreamed of a lot of potential future lives and they have all been full of excitement and promise. Being a teacher would have been fun because I’d be responsible for the growth and development of, as they say, the future of the world. Being an actor would have been a blast because, well, who out there doesn’t want to be in a movie? I’ve always loved the thought of transforming into someone else and creating a world that didn’t exist before the movie was made. Becoming a cinematographer would have been fulfilling in a similar way, except instead of being in the movie, I’d be helping to craft it from raw clay, so to speak.

I’ve had a lot of dreams, and I’ve also had to learn to let go of those dreams. It’s hard. It sucks. It can feel like a piece of your soul is being torn out from inside your chest. It’s also something that everyone has had to do. Show me someone out in the world who doesn’t also have a history of needing to let go of a dream and I’ll show you someone who’s lying. Lying right to your face!

I would call it one of those “universal truths”: life is not going to turn out how you had planned. It’s the rare exception when someone gets things right the very first time. It’s rare enough that it would be foolish to bank on it happening.

Unfortunately, the world is also obsessed with the idea of chasing your dreams to the detriment of everything else. We’re all encouraged to seek fame and fortune, no matter the cost. The more damaging message that still gets passed around is that none of us are worth anything unless we’ve achieved all of our biggest dreams and are known for accomplishing them. Everyone wants to be a famous actor or a YouTube influencer or a pro football player and it’s crushing when that doesn’t happen. It’s terrible that we’re seen as worthless by the world at large unless we’ve got our face beaming down on people from a billboard.

None of this is to suggest that we shouldn’t have dreams that we want to achieve. Dreams, hopes, goals, whatever you want to call them are a good thing. They motivate you to strive for more than you may have.

All of this is me suggesting that it’s okay to walk away from a dream when it becomes clear that it’s not going to happen or you’d be better off, happier even, pursuing something else. Yes, it’s going to absolutely suck and it’s going to be painful as hell, but it’s also okay. You don’t have to be your idealized version of your dream. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be on magazine covers.

The world needs to get waaay better at drilling into our heads that just being okay at something and being content with your life is worth striving for.

I’ll be the first to admit that I struggle with this concept. There are large parts of me that still craves wanting to be an influential, well-known person. It’s taken a lot of work to realize that just being pleased with what I have and can make in life is worth striving for. Developing new interests, learning new things, and trying to improve ourselves will always, always be a worthy pursuit, but just being happy with what you have is also okay.

Being content is an underrated quality.

I’m going to continue to have dreams, and I may even decide to pursue some of them, but I’m also going to work on being happy with what I’m doing now. Maybe I’m not going to win an Oscar for Best Cat-Themed Productivity Blog or anything, but I can still feel like a winner for being happy with my life. That sounds pretty dang good to me.

This is one move that isn't going to leave you all sore and sweaty

There’s a new blog post waiting for you. Hip-hip-hooray! 🎉

It’s called: Easily Move Your Blog To/From Squarespace.

Despite not primarily using Squarespace for my website needs these days, I’ll still continue to sing its praises. It’s great for many other people. One such song I’ll be singing today is about just how stinkin’ easy they make it to move your blog into and out of their service.

Seriously. No foolin’. Getting all your WordPress, Blogger, or Tumblr content into Squarespace and ending up with a pretty close to complete website is a cinch. Heck, if you want to move all your content out of Squarespace for use on, say, a new WordPress site, that couldn’t be any easier, too.

Click through the link above to learn how to move your great website content into or out of Squarespace. All it takes is a few simple steps and you’ll be ready to go. In fact, I bet this is something you could even challenge yourself to complete in a single day. Give it a read right now!

If you ever want to throw some suggestions my way, then send me a reply to this email. They’re always wonderful to receive.

Seriously friend, I'd love to hear from you.

Until next time, stay dandy, cat.

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